One Way To Show Love

Recently, I heard a sermon about showing others you love them, and I realized it’s not necessarily what I tell them, but how I show them. In my devotions every morning, I’ve been researching the word love, and how to “show” my love to others—family and friends. For the next few blog posts, I’d like to share with you what I’ve learned.

One way to show love is found in Colossians 3:13, and it’s about forgiveness. It says, “Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”

Does that mean I should remember the offense and us it as blackmail in the future? No. Does it mean I should execute revenge whether planned or not? No. Does that mean I completely forget the offense and never think of it again? Of course not—that would be impossible. But, God does expect me, with His help, to endeavor toward forgiveness.

Exactly what is forgiveness? The dictionary says it’s “to grant pardon for, to give up all claim on account of, to cease to feel resentment against.” All of these things are hard to do when someone has offended or injured me in some way. Just because I know what forgiveness means doesn’t help me understand how to execute the definition.  Just “saying” I forgive someone doesn’t make it so.

So, how do I forgive? The Bottom line?

1) I have to ask for God’s help. You’ve heard the saying, “to err is human to forgive is divine.” It’s impossible for me as a human to completely, absolutely, without-looking-back forgive another. The Bible tells us that without God, we can do nothing. (John 15:5) It also says that revenge belongs to the Lord, not us. (Romans 12:19) So ask for His help!

2) Think of all the sins I’ve committed that need forgiveness. Then, in gratitude, I vow to show the same patience and grace to my friend or family member that God has shown to me. I cannot expect God to forgive me if I don’t forgive others. (Luke 6:37) Remember God’s forgiveness!

3) Forgive from the heart, not just the head. I want to make it a top priority in my life to have a forgiving spirit.

4) Try to forget. When I remember the offense, I will try to make a conscious effort to “remember it no more.” (Hebrews 8:12)

5) And most importantly, I will pray for that person. You’d be surprised how praying for someone helps you love them more.

So, the first way for me (and you) to really “show” love to others is to Forgive.  🙂

 

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4 thoughts on “One Way To Show Love

  1. These reminders are ALWAYS welcome as extending forgiveness can be SUCH A challenging thing! I’m definitely a work in progress, but because of encouragement from people like you, I’m heading in the right direction! Thanks!

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    • Thanks for commenting, Sherry. I tell myself the same thing every day, but it helps to know we have someone to turn to for wisdom and strength. I know I can’t forgive in my own strength, but with God’s help, I can. 🙂

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  2. Some things are so hard to ‘forgive and forget’, but I try to remind myself to make the conscious choice to NOT bring up past offenses if I’ve forgiven the person for them. Of course, that doesn’t mean that the person gets free reign in my life because some things diminish trust, but that’s entirely different from forgiveness.

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    • Thank you for the comment, Carrie. There’s no way I can forgive without God’s help, but it’s still hard to trust someone again who has hurt you once already. Praying for that person always helps me. 🙂

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