Do you hate to see some people coming? One reason might be because they tend to dominate the conversation. This makes me think about myself. How many times do I use the word “I” in the middle of a conversation with my friends or my family.
Sometimes, we have an unconscious habit of turning the conversation around to express OUR opinion, OUR advice on a subject, or OUR “words of wisdom.” When you’re standing around with several of your friends, LISTEN to the conversation, and see how many times each person interjects their personal comment using the word “I.” After a while, it seems almost funny.
Most of the time we jump in because we want to help someone or make others laugh. Basically, we want others to love us. But I’ve noticed the most loved people in the world are those who rarely use the word “I.” They’re people who actually LISTEN to others first. Those people ask questions of the friends they are talking to … questions about their situation, their problems, their family. If we would cut out four-fifths of the word “I” in our conversations with others, we would HEAR what they are really saying. And, who knows? We might hear something worth listening to. 🙂
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